Today is the day I fill in the blank, but first, let me check Facebook…and my email. Well, those dishes aren’t going to wash themselves. There’s only one slice of cake left; might as well eat it so I can get that plate washed too. Wait, am I the only one who does this? Maybe it is just me but getting started seems to be the hardest part when trying something new. To not know what will happen or if I will make the right choices can be almost paralyzing; at least it used to be.
I’ve come to realize that the first step on any path is one of self-love. Lao Tzu tells us that, ” the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” I say that the first step is always the same, loving yourself where you are – put another way, accepting yourself, as you are.
You see, if you can love yourself wherever you are, the outcome of the journey becomes less important. That is not to say that you should be satisfied where you are and never take the second step of your journey. In fact, the opposite is true. In loving yourself, you gain the confidence to try any and everything you want to. The difference lies in the fact that if you do fail, you will still be okay. You will not fall apart, berating yourself. Your pride may be hurt but you can easily learn from the experience; adjust and try again or release and move on to the next thing.
When we love ourselves, we become free. We are no longer bound by the opinions and expectations of others. Because we love ourselves, we are confident in the decisions we make, and we make those decisions based on what we truly want, rather than what we think will please another. We begin to choose more wisely the people we allow into our lives and more freely release those who no longer serve us.
Hopefully, by now, you can see the importance of self-love. Many of us never even give a second thought as to how we feel about ourselves or about who we are. My hope is that you sincerely do love yourself; but, I have an exercise for you, even the most confident of you. You’ve made it this far for a reason so humor me. Take a moment and look at yourself in the mirror. Really look at yourself and just notice what comes up. Stare into your eyes and acknowledge the person looking back at you. Now say, “I love you.” I’m not kidding. Stop reading and go find a mirror….I’ll wait.
How did that feel? Were you able to hold eye contact with yourself? Did you believe yourself when you said: “I love you”? There are no right or wrong answers; only the realities of how you feel about yourself. If you fell in love all over again while staring into your eyes, congratulations! Go conquer the world. On the other hand, if you couldn’t look at yourself or something negative came up, it’s still okay. It’s you and you can change you. Learn to love you so you too can conquer the world.
I’d love to hear how this exercise went for you. Leave me a comment below and let me know if you did the exercise and how it went. If you enjoyed the process and would like to go further on the self-love journey, book your free 30-minute discovery call today. Together, we will find the best path for you.
Until next time, go do something your future self will thnak you for!